I kind of love that you ask us this question concerning how our life would be different if our gender and sexuality were different because I think about this question all the time. I’m going to be focusing on the sexuality aspect of the question because it affects me significantly more. I identify as gay and being gay is a huge aspect of who I am. It not only shapes who I like, but how I talk, act, and the things I enjoy. I love being gay and I love being a part of a community such as the LGBTQ+ community. I often times think about what my life would look like if I was straight and most often, I can’t even imagine what it would be because being gay is such an integral part of who I am. Being gay has not only led me to the friends I have today, but the job I have.
A lot of my friendships are based on being gay and the additions that come with it like the humor, the point of view, and the media. I will say, it’s weird writing how much of my relationships are built off of being gay because it sounds weird when I read it, but it’s true. An example of this is the tv show, RuPaul’s Drag Race. Obviously, you don’t have to be gay or apart of the LGBTQ+ community to watch Drag Race, however, being gay and exploring gay media led me to Drag Race.
RuPaul’s Drag Race is how I’ve connected with people when I’m in new settings, because it’s something me and another queer person can relate to and talk about. I’ve done this with Real Housewives and queer movies, but my point is it’s something I hold dear to my heart that represents my identity that I can use to relate and talk to with other queer people. Being gay, I represent that part of myself in different ways but my biggest is through fashion.
I tend to lean more feminine in general, and I’ve expressed this through the clothes I chosen to wear. I’m bringing up fashion because it’s not only something so important to me, but another outlet where I can express my identity and queerness. I love to not fit into societal norms of what men and women should wear and just put on whatever the hell I want to wear and think is cute. I express my queerness through fashion, so if I were to be straight, that aspect of me would be drastically different. At the end of the day, I love being gay and queer and I love expressing it through different outlets such as movies and fashion. So, reflecting on what my life would look like if I was straight makes me realize how much I wear my queerness on my sleeve. It’s such an integral part of who I am and how I act, so I couldn’t even imagine a scenario or alternate universe where I would be straight.
