I have no idea where I fit! My dad owns a really successful business, and so did my mom, but we weren’t overly rich and we didn’t have a mansion, but we had a nice house with a big backyard and we had multiple cars, and when we were all of age he bought us our cars, but we were also required to either work or go to school, so we didn’t have a free ride. My dad is a business owner but he also stressed the importance of respecting authority, and being a good employee, and how building a rapport with your employers would help you in future careers.
We are probably apart of the progressive advocates if I were to choose, because we all want to actively dismantle traditional forms. My mother had a higher education than my father, and she continued to work and had her own successful business instead of being a traditional housewife, and taking care of the house and children at home. I don’t know what to think about it, I had an idea that single family homes, black family homes, and etc. work in terms of family form, marriage, and inequality. A black couple makes significantly less than a white couple, and a white couple is more likely to have that traditional family home, with a married mom and dad, kids, and maybe even a pet.
I don’t know how my family is going to really turn out, but I hope to be married, with a stable home and income, and then maybe I’d like to travel a bit with my significant other, before having kids. I’d like to be married at the end of my 20’s if possible, and have my career already progressing to then travel and then have kids. I sort of have a timeline to how I want things to happen, but I know this usually doesn’t happen, and sometimes unexpected things happen to derail you, but I’m going to try to be prepared for what I can, to make the most of it.
I think that the foundation that I have for my family will help me, and how I grew up will help me as well, I had a relatively great childhood, with both of my parents being married, and eventually we were able to get those two dogs, and then I was also able to go to college with their help as well, I would like that to happen for me as well, my parents met while they were in their 30s, my mom already had 4 kids, and then my parents adopted my two siblings and I.
This is probably pretty weird to everyone else, but it has been my norm, and I don’t see anything wrong with it. We’ve never been quite traditional, we still get looked at weird when we walk down the streets or stop for a coffee, mainly because my dad is an older white guy, while I’m a young black lady, we always get really strange looks but that just helps me with the family I want to have for myself.
